The Reality of Work and a Degree with an 11 Month Old
It sounds like a real juggling act doesn’t it? Working, studying and ensuring this little human is fed and clothed at the same time? Well it sounds like it because it is.
If you look at my Instagram or my uni hand ins which are all neat and on time and the fact that I’m never late for work and always in clean uniform you’d think I’ve got it all well and truly organised. But the reality is more often than not I’m typing essays on my phone and eating a cereal bar for breakfast in the car.
If I’m having a particularly good day then by half past eight when rob gets home Amelia and I will both be dressed, have had breakfast and both our lunches will be made and in the fridge – mine to take to uni or work and hers to have while I’m gone so that her daddy knows exactly what to give her. If Amelia’s in a happy mood – which thankfully is 99% of the time – I might even have done the washing up and the laundry.
However if I’ve manage to do all that in the few short hours I’ve been awake then the chances are I haven’t turned my laptop on or even considered looking at a text book. The required reading list is all well and good until you have to work all weekend and can’t put your teething tot down to have a wee because she’s clingy and in pain.
And when my lecturer casually mentioned last week that we should all know what our dissertation question is going to be by now so that we can get started over the summer I nearly laughed out loud. The laughter gave way to concern when at least half of the other students raised their hands and began chatting out various ideas and research proposals. The concern was promptly forgotten as I walked back down the high street and remembered that Amelia had run out of her favourite snack – goodies date and banana bars – and there wasn’t enough soya left to make a cup of tea.
Don’t get me wrong I work hard on my essays and have every intention of passing uni. But for me it’s not a life style the way it is for so many students. I don’t live in a house with other students, I don’t go out clubbing – haven’t stepped foot in a club in nearly two years – and I have not spent one whole day in the library in the two years I’ve been doing my degree. The last time I read one of my text books was in my car outside our flat because Amelia had fallen asleep on the way home. Id love to sit in costa with my head phones in and type out my essays in peace but it just isn’t going to happen.
And I don’t see a problem with that. At the end of my course I’ll still have a degree, regardless of whether I completed my course work in a coffee shop or with Amelia sitting on my lap trying to grab the my phone whilst I try and type my essay up one handed on notes.
I’m getting everything done and I’d like to think that’s what really counts.
Warm Weather Essentials
It has been unusually hot this week in the south east. My car has been reading up to 30 degrees and the air conditioning has been a must for every journey.
Warm weather is wonderful for us adults. Most of the population have been out sunbathing, leaving off the sun cream in the hope to tan darker.
Babies skin is far too delicate and fragile for laying out in the midday sun.
Essential number one is sun cream. For Amelia I got a spf 50 one in a spray bottle from boots for £4. It’s for sensitive skin and is really easy to apply. Always read the bottle and don’t rely on the price to be an indicator of how good the sun cream is – a £15 a bottle one could be spf 20.
Essential number two is a sun hat. Amelia’s grown a lot and her little sun hats no longer fit. I found a really cute white one with a strap under her chin for £2.50 in Primark. White clothing helps reflect the sun rays so helps keep your little ones head cool. Amelia looks adorable in hers.
Essential number three is a refillable bottle. Amelia likes her milk bottles still so we have a pink Tommee Tippee bottle that we use for water. She also has a sippy cup.
Essential number four is a sun parasol for on the pushchair. Amelia has a red one that I got from mothercare for £15. It has a bendy arm that allows you to position it in any direction.
Amelia loves playing outside in the sun. We’ve visited nanny’s a lot so that Amelia can play in the garden and her new swing set, an early birthday present.
You remember the last Saturday night you went out and had too many drinks and got a pizza on the way home? No? Me neither. Most weekends I’m in bed by nine because Amelia goes to bed about half seven.
It’s got to be a good two years since I’ve been clubbing and despite Amelia being nearly a year old she still hasn’t stayed over night with anyone other than me and rob. Yes, I know plenty of babies that regularly have sleepovers with grand parents or aunties. I also know plenty of parents who started the sleep over part when their little ones were a month to six weeks old (as I breast fed exclusively until 6 weeks this wouldn’t have even been possible). And no, this isn’t me judging them. If it works for them then that’s brilliant!
But me and my mum have spoken about this loads of times and have both agreed that for the first year at least, Amelia’s nights should be spent with her mummy and daddy.
This suits me fine. What better way to spend my evenings than with my little princess? No horrible hangover, no drunken spending spree at the bar and no makeup covered pillow the next morning.
Amelia’s ten month check went brilliantly. Developmentally she is a year ahead and the lady doing the check said that Amelia was one of the happiest and most secure babies she had ever encountered. This, I would like to think, is down to our parenting. I’ve never been a fan of cry it out – I wouldn’t let an adult cry themselves to sleep so of course I don’t let Amelia – and I am fully aware that my main purpose is to meet Amelia’s needs. Apparently I do what’s known as ‘sensitive or responsive parenting.’
It means being constantly and consistently in tune with Amelia’s emotional and physical needs, which would explain why she’s so happy and content all the time.
Before being told this I was not aware we were parenting in any particular way. We were just doing what Amelia needed, whenever she needed it. Having the health visitor tell us how well we were parenting Amelia was extremely reassuring. Our family members tell us this frequently but having a professional agree made it more believable. If you missed my post about Amelia’s ten month check you can read it here.
Where else would I want to be than with my princess
Butternut squash and potato soup
350 grams butternut squash and sweet potato (if you want to cheat a bit tesco sell a bag this size of them ready prepared)
2 garlic cloves
1 large onion
Salt and pepper
1 tsp of nutmeg
Splash of milk
2 stock cubes mixed with 500 ml of boiling water
A third of a celery stick
1. Cook the sweet potatoes and squash. I steamed mine but roasting would work fine too. They usually take about 40 minutes in the oven.
2. Dice the onion and the celery. Cut up the garlic finely or crush it.
3. Heat a little oil in the bottom of a large pan or pot. Add the onion and garlic and some salt and pepper. Add the celery. Sprinkle the nutmeg in. When the onions are mostly cooked, pour in the stock.
4. Bring to the boil and add the potatoes and squash. To make it easier to blend I mashed the vegetables up a bit with a fork.
5. Using a hand blender, blitz the vegetables and stock so it starts to thicken. (I kept the soup on the heat to do this but you can take it off if you prefer)
6. When the soup is smooth add a splash of milk to thicken. Taste to check the seasoning and add more salt and pepper if needed. If it is too thick add a bit more water.
7. Either eat immediately or cool and store in the fridge and heat up within 2 days.
Amelia’s birthday is fast approaching and to celebrate we are throwing her an afternoon tea party for her and her little friends. With work and uni to juggle alongside the titchy princess I have to be organised.
The to do list for a first birthday party is surprisingly long. So far I have:
Gone shopping for all her presents
Paid for and put together the party bags
Got the balloons and banners
Got the plastic cups and paper plates
Got the wrapping paper
Got the icing sugar and other decorations for the cake
What I still need to do:
Wrap the presents
Make and decorate the cake
Buy and cook the party food
Find the princess an outfit
Buy batteries for my camera so I can take some decent pictures for once
Who knew a one year old required so much? I’m not a big fan of huge parties for first birthdays. Being an only child there aren’t that many children that Amelia could invite and I think Amelia would find a hall filled with people overwhelming.
Her little tea party is going to be in nanny’s back garden with lots of toys and people that she knows and loves. Small and sweet for our little sweetheart.
Four weeks Monday my baby is officially one. Where has the time gone?
So many people I know were celebrating having a long weekend. Well not for us. Retail, catering and emergency services don’t get bank holidays off. Everyone still wants to go out for dinner, do their shopping and see a doctor if they go to a and e.
Amelia’s dad and I both worked this morning, much to her annoyance. She likes having both of us with her all day, not one at a time. (Rob came in at half eight and ten minutes later I had to leave for work.) Daddy won a name the bunny competition at work – kind of although that’s a story for another time – and came home with this fluffy friend for Amelia.
To make up for me rushing out to work Amelia had a real treat for breakfast – strawberries with a mini chocolate chip hot cross bun and a bit of one of her Easter eggs – and has spent the time Ive been at work chilling in her pyjamas with her daddy.
Amelia did her usual rummage through the bags when I got back from work, looking for treats from the staff shop (luckily I got her juice cartons and baby ginger bread). Amelia’s nanny on her daddy’s side dropped round a chocolate egg which is being saved for later:
After all the excitement the little lady is now relaxing next to me with her juice watching CBeebies. Perfect way to spend the last day of Easter.
My little princess is one, five weeks today. When did she get so big?
(These biscuits are meant to be Easter egg shaped but Lakeland had every cookie cutter apart from an Easter egg shaped one. They even had a one shaped like two cats sitting next to each other. But no Easter egg one!)
125 grams sugar
125 grams butter
225 grams of plain flour
1 tbsp vanilla essence
Pre heat the oven to 190 degrees (lower if you have a fan over
Cream the butter and sugar together. Add in the vanilla essence and the flour. Squish together with your hands to form a dough ball and roll out on a floured surface. (We cut ours out with a knife and it made 16 good sized biscuits).
Cook them until golden which is about fifteen minutes. Leave the biscuits to cool on a rack and make the icing sugar. Mix icing sugar with water until a thick paste is formed. For ours we added a few drops of blue food colouring. Using a spoon smooth the icing over the cooked biscuits and add the sprinkles.
These are what our finished biscuits looked like. No, they aren’t perfect but Amelia had fun helping make them and loved licking the icing off when they were finished.
Easter or the New Christmas?
It’s Amelia’s first Easter and there is certainly the temptation to go over board and buy her a bucket load of chocolate. But one she wouldn’t eat it and two I don’t want to spoil her.
I have seen many memes and posts calling Easter the new Christmas. In our family that is definitely not the case. Easter is not Christmas and for us does not mean a pile of presents. Emphasis on the PILE part. (Her nanny and great nanny have each used the money they would have spent on chocolate on clothes as the little lady is nearly in the next size up.)
So what are we getting the titchy princess for her first Easter weekend?
I’ve had an adorable little skirt and hair bow set made for her by a lovely Instagram business called ‘stitchlings creations’. She also has a pair of bunny ears and an Easter bonnet which we are going to decorate later with Pom poms and fluffy Easter chicks.
As far as chocolate goes she has a small hamper with little chocolates in it: kinder eggs, kinder bars, a small Cadbury’s egg and some caramel mini eggs. We also treated her to some gold Easter bunny’s this morning in the lindt shop at bluewater.
As it’s raining and horrible out today we are going to make some Easter biscuits and some chocolate nest cakes. Recipes to follow.
Have a good easter everyone
Ten month check
Going into it we knew Amelia’s was going to go well. The checklist came through when she was nine months and she could do everything on it then.
But we could never have imagined it going as well as it did. The health visitor that carried out the check marked Amelia 60/60 on every category and said her mental and physical abilities were more that of a two year old and we should ask her preschool – when she goes – to adjust her activities to match that.
What does it really mean?
Well anyone who knows Amelia will know she is unusually active and extremely noisy. She’s been able to climb out of her cot for months, has no trouble with stairs and is never still – even in her sleep she kicks her legs. She wiggles in time to music and waves good bye whenever you leave a room, normally with very little encouragement.
She says four very clear words – Mum dad dig and Nan. She also says all the variations. Mummy mumma daddy dada ect. She tries to copy you when you speak and will try and sing along to music.
Amelia’s favourite foods are pretty much all fruits and vegetable. On a normal day she has rice crispies and fruit for breakfast, morning snack of fruit, lunch of cheese and crackers with dried fruit, rice crackers for afternoon snack and dinner of steamed veggies with a small portion of meat or my veggie option. The health visitor looked very surprised when I told her this. She said it was very unusal to have a parent balance her diet as well as we had, which makes me wonder what are other people feeding their little ones? Amelia just has smaller helpings of what we do. Are we that healthy?
While I am very proud of her and pleased that the health visitor put it down to our parenting I do know that not all babies are so far ahead.
Some little ones need a bit of extra help in certain areas. And there is nothing wrong with that! Having a baby is not a competition. Babies will do things when they are good and ready and if that means with extra support than that is absolutely fine. As long as they are happy and well looked after the rest will fall into place.
here is a picture of my little princess eating her favourite snack – banana
First shoes: the facts
Where did we go for Amelia’s first shoes?
We went to Golden Boot a lovely independent store in Maidstone town centre. It has been there years and is where my Mum purchased my first shoes.
When did we go?
A few days after Amelia turned 10 months. My little brother was walking by 10 months and Amelia is very nearly there too. We have a family of early walkers!
What shoes did we get?
An adorable pinky corrally coloured pair with a t-bar strap.
What size is the little princess?
3G – pretty average for a baby her size.
Why golden boot?
They offer a little book with their picture in at a first shoe fitting so I have a lovely picture book and photo for Amelia’s memory box. They also offer shoes at lower prices than other shoe shops and their staff are wonderful. Amelia tried on 4 or 5 pairs in three different sizes. They don’t sell the shoes until they are completely happy with the fit.
Does Amelia like her shoes?
The honest answer to that is no! She likes having her tootsies free and always pulls her socks off. But she is getting used to the shoes. To start with she went back to tip toe walking but is now flat footed again.
I couldn’t recommend golden boot enough for baby and children’s shoes. If you live locally then pop in with your little ones. This post wouldn’t be complete without a picture of Amelia’s new shoes. Getting pictures of her sitting still is becoming a serious challenge so apologies for the quality.